It is quite difficult for most people to see someone who they are in love with harming them. On most occasions, it is a friend or family member who notices something is wrong.
They may even confront you. It’s estimated more than 60 % of relationships in the United States today include some type of abuse.
There are a few common indicators of physical abusers. Instead of ignoring what other people are saying, you need to take a closer look at the actions of your partner. Ask yourself some of the below questions:
- Are you coerced or discouraged to speak with your friends, co-workers or family?
- Is your partner jealous of your career, your time and the other people in your life?
- Does your partner make sure they go everywhere you go?
- Do you need to discuss your activity plans, why you’re going to do something and who all will be going with you?
- Does your partner keep playing mind games?
- Is your partner jealous of your professional success?
- Does your partner belittle you or talk down to you?
- Does your partner negate your feelings, ideas and opinions?
- Does your partner use guilt or shame to control situations and get their way?
These indicators are much more than just indicators. They will also help determine the degree of emotional abuse and can be a precursor of physical abuse too.
People in abusive relationships don’t usually believe that they are in one. But if you answer yes to any of these questions then you are most probably in an abusive relationship which could even progress to physical abuse. Your partner will need to understand that their behavior isn’t acceptable and you will need to be the one to take the initiative and accept that your relationship is in trouble and you need help.